Is a Relationship Doomed if You Have Different Interests?

Compatibility or Commitment?

Thinking back to the beginnings of our relationship, we had some similar interests – spirituality, personal growth. And there were certainly things that the Martian was and is interested in that I'm not, for example, fixing and learning about cars, skiing, physics (which I blush to say I got a D in in high school) and airplanes to name a few. Here's what's happened with me on those subjects:

•    I now share his interest in cars - green cars.

•    I've never become an athlete but I am using WII FIT regularly and enjoying it.

•    I've found an interest in quantum physics because it veers right into spirituality so that has become a shared interest.

•    Haven't developed an interest in airplanes except for how they may impact my travel.

But do interests really create compatibility? To some extent I suppose they do but what seems much more important to me is shared values. We both value honesty, strong family relationships, forgiveness, change, commitment, meaning, accountability, responsibility, creativity, fun, laughter, freedom, gratitude, generosity, generosity of spirit, integrity, peace, abundance, prosperity, personal growth. With all that in common, how could we go wrong?

Relationship advice: If you are new in a relationship, begin to have conversations about your values and see what comes of it.

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Commitment

Begin It Now!

I've been dabbling around in personal and spiritual growth for around 35 years - a long time. I've learned a lot and seen trends and think, sometimes, that something was gimmicky or flat and then, all of a sudden I awake! It really isn't just a saying. It's the truth. Below is a quote from Goethe which I had learned when I started working for a "New Age" sales manager in 1986. At the time I was just attracted to the novelty of  spiritual realization and had not really made a commitment to my spiritual growth.  The quote:

Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back-- Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth that ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one's favor all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamed would have come his way. Whatever you can do, or dream you can do, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it. Begin it now.

Goethe

All of a sudden the other day part of the quote popped into my head, "Whatever you can do, or dream you can do, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it. Begin it now." In a nutshell, that is the Law of Attraction. If you can see it or dream it, you will attract it - the power and the magic. The only caveat is you REALLY have to believe it. And for me and most others, it is a gradual process - not an overnight event. The step you must take is to commit. It is the difference between thinking of something and doing.  It could take time but the main step is commitment.

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