Friday, August 21, 2015

Why we all don't have what we want

Personal Power For All


Screen Shot 2013-10-17 at 12.47.44 PMI've been involved in the human potential movement or on a personal power path for 40 years. When I started on my path I didn't know I was on a path; I just knew I was in so much angst about my life and my body that I had to do something. What I did was go to a 12-Step program and found a spiritual answer or rather I began to understand how life really works - not what I had learned from my parents who actually didn't have a clue. It's not that at 37 I found all the answers. I found out there were questions. Much more important.

So my journey has wound and wound and found me living in L.A., Sausalito, Mill Valley, Petaluma, Dallas and Las Vegas - in no particular order.
  • It took me out of my first marriage of 15 years into single parenthood with 4 children with lots of low self-esteem.
  • It took me to other 12-Step programs. It found my second husband of 6 mos. in that 12-Step program and led me out of the marriage and the program again.
  • It found me at an obscure workshop called Making Love Work by the then very unknown Barbara deAngeles and John Gray.
  • It found me discovering my childhood abuse and back into another 12-Step program.
  • It took me back to John Gray and Men Are from Mars . It found me my 3rd husband of 23 years.
  • It took me to coaching and writing - and many other places.
My life is a miracle to behold. I have 4 lovely adult children, 6 amazing grandchildren, 2 beautiful daughters-in-law. It gave me a most precious and special relationship with my stepdaughter. It gave me friendly but far-away relationships with my other stepchildren and grandchildren.

Why did a woman who was emotionally and sexually abused as a child, who suffered from very damaged self-esteem, married 3 times(!), who saw herself as a victim etc. etc etc. get such a great current life. THE ANSWER IS SIMPLE. I DO THE WORK I UNDERSTAND MY NEEDS TO HEAL, TO GROW AND I DO IT 100%. Even when I didn't have the emotional tools to move on, I had the personal power.  Whether it's with a coach, without a coach, in a 12-step program or out - NO MATTER WHAT, I do and have done the work.

If you have that kind of personal power and commitment to your path, you have anything you want. I promise.


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6 comments:

  1. It realy an amazing paragraph.I realy impresd

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  2. Very inspiring. Its extremely difficult to be positive when the chips are down and I applaud your determination to 'understand what needs to be done' and to 'commit to it 100%'. Please keep writing about your experiences. It gives us hope that we too can reach for the stars :-) All the best !!

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  3. Thank you so much for this - I too come from the kind of background that is a long journey to walk out of it. Thank you for the reminder and insight that the winding, often dark journey IS life.

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  4. You are in synch with Michael Beckwith. He talked about resolve this Sunday, about purging the phrase, "I don't feel like it" from your vocabulary. Good going on this entry.

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  5. maiaberens (Maia Berens)December 8, 2009 at 8:20 AM

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    When I started on my path I didn’t know I was on a path; I just knew I was in so much angst ...that I had to do something.[link to post] http://friendfeed.com/e/09863820-c8fc-445e-8f56-40547509ed36 - Posted using Chat Catcher

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  6. "If you have that kind of personal power and commitment to your path, you have anything you want. I promise." I am learning this, and it is SO true. Thank you for this awesome post<3 xo

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