First Self Exploration Then Relationship

Self Exploration in the Movies?

We saw a movie last night that made me think of some things  Sometimes we jump into relationships or jump from encounter to encounter looking for something.  Only to realize that what we have been looking for can be found from within ourselves.  A little time and self exploration we could have saved ourselves months or sometimes years of horrible or worthless relationships.

Back to the movie: Pretty New York young woman with no purpose other than to find a man. She’s got a good job but doesn’t particularly like it. She just does it. Goes from man to man - drinking too much, having sex too fast and not having any relationships that last and feels worse and worse.

She finally does meet a nice man who comes from another country and wants her to come with him after knowing each other a few days. She declines and, as the plot unravels, ultimately takes a trip to that country, loses his contact information and decides to be there just for her own self exploration.

At the end of the movie she’s on her way to the airport when missing young man walks onto the train but doesn’t see her. My husband and I wished the movie ended with her choosing to not go over to him but that’s not what happened. She goes over to him and allows herself to be taken off the train by him and in the end chooses to miss her plane. It is a big step for her to make that choice based on the personality that’s portrayed but wouldn’t it have been a bigger step (and very non-Hollywood) if she just continued to create a life where she got to know herself through self exploration and became a full person first before she partnered with someone?

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