Relationship Advice
Are you one of those people who think that they have to show the people you date that you have the same interests they do? You probably read a magazine article that suggested you do just this type of relationship advice. DON'T DO THAT. Be yourself. Relationships come in all types but the strongest relationships have proven time and time again certain things. Following are two of them:
One of these things is that you need to do is to stay true to yourself and who you are. Dating is difficult but it is even more difficult if you waste your time trying to be someone that you aren’t. You see it happen all the time. People begin dating and like each other but try to convince each other that they have many things in common whether they really do or not. For example, a women might claim she is a huge football fan when in reality she knows nothing about the game and could care less. For this relationship to go anywhere, sooner or later she is going to be found out and have to come clean and admit she isn’t a football fan. You may not realize it but this is lying. Is this any way to start a relationship that has any hope to survive? And how can you ever be sure you are loved for who you are if you don't show who you are?
- Another important piece of the relationship of relationship advice is to keep your humor. You need to be able to laugh together and about yourselves. This keeps your relationship fun and playful and there is less chance that you will be hurt over silly little things that don’t really matter. Supposedly men especially don’t like women that take life too seriously and make everything a matter of life and death. I agree the less drama in the relationship the better but I don't want my partner to take every little thing too seriously either. I hate it when he takes things personally that I never meant that way,
The better you are able to be yourself with each other and laugh with each other, the more you prove that you can work together even when things aren’t so great. A positive relationship can only really happen when both partners are happy with themselves first and then with each other and laugh a lot.
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I don't know much about this topic because I have not dated for a lot of years and my experience is from long ago. But these things seem like good advice.
ReplyDeleteThe two main points are "be yourself" and "humor".
My devils advocate question is: if it takes a lifetime to figure out who you are then how do you manage to "be yourself" in all situations? I guess you don't.
The humor part is cool. I mostly like it. I just can't pull it off all the time and I will try to be funny sometimes and it comes out wrong. Humor can be misused in a relationship especially when there are unresolved issues between the participants.
Nothing works all the time for everybody so it's always good to have a bag of tools and try stuff to see if it works.
And it's even better when after you have tried "being yourself" or being "humorous" that you sit down with your partner and talk about what worked and what did not.
Very good article. I haven't really dated much in the past. Am looking forward to it right now, and will consider these very good points.
ReplyDeleteFantastic article - you are right, the only way to be is yourself ....
ReplyDeleteI love the comments from the martian coupled with this article. I think it will bring insight to people. I am not dating but I wish I had read this when I was.
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