What Are My Barriers to Personal Growth and Development?

I believe that my denial or reluctance about personal growth and development affects the balance of what I attract into my life, affects my mindset and the progress of me as a continually developing person.  If I don’t acknowledge my barriers to personal growth, I will be in terrible discomfort.

Can a friend relationship be one of my barriers to personal growth?

Here’s an example from my life: Over my lifetime in the past, I have formed powerful relationships with certain women to whom I willingly gave my power or, if I didn’t give my power away exactly, I denied the truth of some clear and subtle aspects of the relationship. I thought I was done doing that.

But several weeks ago I realized that a relationship I’ve had for 15 years had many aspects OUT OF BALANCE and I had indications and feelings for years.

For example:

• Almost all of the emotional support was going in one direction – from me to her – and had been for years
• I felt like it was an obligation to give her time and she felt like it was an obligation to give me time
• Truth be told, I no longer feel proud to call her my friend as she lives her life in ways I do not feel good about – let’s call it stagnated personal growth and development.

I could tell you stories that support the above but those stories would cloud the truth. The truth I had to be willing to allow myself to know was it was time to let this relationship go. I have done that. It was hard. I don’t like to think of myself as not loyal or a rejecting sort of person but for my own personal growth and development as a human being on Planet Earth for a fleeting lifetime, I did it. I hope it somehow has a positive effect on her but I did this for me.

I feel the peace of growth and the positive “backlash” of balance I’ve achieved.
Anything niggling at you? Take a look at your barriers to your own personal growth.

Now that you've finished reading, I have one thing left I'd like you to do.

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Fears - Barriers to Personal Growth

Fears in Control?

Allowing fears to stop you from accomplishing what you want in life might be one of the most significant barriers to personal growth.

• Say you want to stop spending your life working for others, doing a job that is largely uncreative and unsatisfying to your soul. But you know how much money is coming in every month.

• What if you don't know what you do want to do or you know but have never been in your own business and don't know how to start or all your old messages of incompetence arise? Hire a coach.

The right life coach is in their own business so they certainly can teach and support you to do the same.

The life coach will help you deal with your negative self talk.

Many people have various different fears and no matter what they are about, they can be so strong that they are completely debilitating. Many life coaches will help you with tools and techniques to overcome your fear so you can follow a clear path towards your future.

A coach will give you tools and techniques to help you over come your barriers to personal growth, of course, but the most important thing that they can give you is the confidence in yourself to know that whatever your fear is, you can handle it. Sooner or later, as you progress with your coach you will suddenly feel so strongly that you can face that fear and do whatever it is you are so scared of,  you will just jump right in and do it.

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Are the 12-Steps enough?

I am a friend of Bill W. If that doesn't mean anything to you, then you might want to skip this article - or not. Around the world there are many self-help organizations that have formed to help various forms of addiction. Many of them - maybe most of them - are based on the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous.

 

The program within those pages have helped countless people get their addictions handled and have helped them get their lives more together. I am one of those people. Almost 34 years ago I began steadfastly using what I learned there and the results are phenomenal. I consider the spiritual program the basis of my life.

But I felt led to find additional ways to grow to support what I learned there. Many do that. And I believe for most of us it is necessary if we truly want to grow into the fullest person that we have the ability to be. I don't believe "The Program" really addresses our emotional selves fully. It does in many ways but I know I need tools to process my emotions fully so that I can relieve myself of any emotional backlog accumulated over my life time and which, to some degree, continues to run my life.

The Big Book was written in 1935. There has been and evolution of consciousness and information that has blossomed since that time having to do with our emotional selves. Many people are trying to deal with it with prescription medication offered by the medical world to deal with feelings. Personally, I don't believe that really solves it. (I am neither doctor or psychologist. This is strictly my opinion based on observation of myself, clients, friends, family and my natural inclinations. So any 12-Steppers out there who feel it necessary to add additional sources of help the their program of recovery, my blessings go with you and I am one of you.

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